Psalm 37:4 says “delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” These words have deep meaning and can apply to Christians seeking comfort, companionship, and earthly love. Seeking a partner who is also a servant of Christ can seem impossible. This can be especially true after going through a divorce, as you might feel hopeless and discouraged. The following are a few tips that may help you find the right person. This should help with Christian dating after divorce.
Live for God, First
There is definitely a change in society as more men and women are interested in living without commitment. So the fear of not finding a spouse is a real one. But this is something a Christian should not be worried about. God is in control; Seeking God’s direction and making sure you live a Godly life is the most important thing during this fragile time in your life. Remember that God already knows who your future mate is. So continue to focus on growing in Christ with daily prayer, praise, and Bible studies.
You should also make sure that you do not rush into a relationship. Be sure that you allow God to heal your broken heart and prepare you for your next spouse (if that is his plan for you).
Get Out There, and Make Yourself Known
Being a beacon of light in a world of darkness should attract a Christian mate. One way to show your passion for God is how active you are in your local church. Joining the choir or participating in other activities is a great way to go. But how many men or women are at your church? Depending on the size of your church, you may not have many choices. This is why you should also try to do some outreach work with other churches and ministries. Try to go to more Christian concerts conferences, and events, too.
Another thing you can do is join a Christian dating site. Joining a good dating site will allow you to connect with like-minded individuals. It is also a place where you can share your interests and what ministries you are currently participating in. You might even find other divorcees who can relate to what you are going through.
You should keep in mind that mature Christian women or men who are looking for a spouse will be searching for someone who is lost in God. So your commitment to Christ will be very attractive to a potential mate.
Make Your Intentions Known to God
Another simple thing to consider is if you have let God know about your desire for a mate. Of course God already knows that you are looking for a mate, but God also likes his people to communicate with him and make their requests known.
So actively pray to God about your desire to have a spouse. If the desire is a Godly one, he will lead you to your spouse one way or another. Have a true and honest conversation because–after all–Christ is your best friend. Hold nothing back, and he will answer your prayers. Be patient because God’s timing is never wrong. If he seems slow, keep the faith and don’t despair.
Christian dating after divorce can be hard, but hopefully these tips help you find the right mate. When you do find someone, remember that the courting stage is important; so do not take this stage for granted or rush to a decision before making sure that God has confirmed that this man or woman is the one he chose for you.